Sunday, June 6, 2010

Please and Thank You

If you read my Feel Good Friday post, you will understand the generation of this rant.  People with no manners are not getting on my ark.

 If, while walking up the gangplank and entering the ark, you drop the door in the face of the person behind you, you are automatically off the ship.  This happens to me on a daily basis and it drives me crazy.  Usually, if I have the baby in my arms and I jog toward the door when someone is walking in, that person will wait a couple of seconds and hold the door for me.  But, God forbid, I am alone and directly behind someone, more often than not they will drop the door in my face.
I mean really, don’t these people have mothers?  Didn’t anyone teach them basic manners like holding the door open for people?  How do you get past the age of ten without acquiring this basic skill?  I honestly don’t get it.  And although I have no way of knowing because I don’t actually follow these rude individuals around, I suspect they are the same people that will walk right through the door I have held open for them without so much as a thank you. 
            There was a time when a lack of manners would have been embarrassing, but people honestly don’t seem to care anymore.  I know this because I have tried to shame some of them to no avail.  If you are one of the people for whom I have held a door open and you have not shown the proper courtesy toward that action, you have most likely heard me utter a loud “your welcome” as you walked away.  Like wise, if you have dropped the door in my face, you have certainly heard and irritated “thank you” tossed in your direction. 
Very rarely does such a comment cause anyone to so much as pause, let alone turn around and apologize, but on occasion it does.  And although for a brief moment I will feel uncomfortable that I called them on their rudeness, I usually recover quickly because manners are really lacking in this area of our country and I think life was nicer when please and thank you were a common part of the vernacular.  I don’t think good manners should be limited to small children being prompted by their parents.  I don’t think please and thank you should have an expiration date of maturity (or in some cases even before then).  I think adults should lead by example and I think please and thank you, at the very least, should be automatic.
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  1. Thank you for such a necessary reminder!

  2. Maybe it's living down South, where manners still mean something most times, but I don't see as much of this rudeness. Which is nice.

  3. I totally agree with you. I hate when some twenty somethings can't be bothered to hold the door open for me when I am trying to navigate my double stroller through a door.

    Ironically, today I had an opportunity to make a good example out of this young guy at Starbucks. He commented how I had my hands full, got out of his seat, walked across Starbucks, and opened the door for me. I said thank you and used it as a teachable moment on good manners. I think he should be allowed on your arc :)

  4. He absolutely will be allowed on my ark! We'll have to put him on the A list. If we had his name, I'd give him a shout out. But since we don't, to the guy at the Starbucks who held the door open for the woman with the double stroller, when the flood comes and you see a large ark with an aggressive woman turning angry people away, don't be discouraged; you're in.

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